I don't mean to be graphic, but kegels do work. I have a 4 year old child, and after having him I was told to do them as a part of the healing process. Well the first time I had sex after having him (3 months later) it was as if I were a virgin again! I was THAT sensitive and THAT tight. Now if you do any type of anal play, just know doing kegels strengthens those muscles as well so it will be harder to relax them for that. I found that out the hard way and stopped doing them for a long time. But then when I stopped doing them, my orgasms vaginally were not as intense and I couldn't have as many. So that is evidence to me that kegels play a major role. As far as giving her an orgasm now, every woman is different, no two the same. Every woman reacts differently to different things and different techniques. Like me for example...I don't like fingers, they feel funny or hurt me, odd I know. I only like toys if they are made of the jelly or skin like materials. I don't like glass, metal, plastic or rubber toys. When it comes to oral I like it soft and slow. But when it comes to intercourse I like it hard and fast, so as you can tell, different techniques with the different things. All I can say is experiment. Try different techniques with the different things, when it comes to intercourse, try different positions. If you are having a problem lasting long without cumming before she does...get some thick condoms and use them to get her off first, then take it off and go again for yourself. If I were there I could tell you many different things to try and the different ways to do them. But unfortunately all I can tell you is to experiment. I also know how to "squirt" and EVERY female can do it. It's the most intense orgasm ever, what "squirting" is, is female ejaculate. If you look up female ejaculate you will find plenty of scientific/medical type sites explaining what it is. What it is in a nutshell is females have a prostate, but it's not the prostate like a male has. A male's prostate is behind his other sexual organs and best reached anally to stimulate. A female's prostate is behind the urethra (tube going from the bladder). The female prostate is best reached vaginally. If you stick your fingers in the vagina, not too far in you will feel a round ball type thing, that's the prostate. You have to stimulate it in the way that is best for her, for me it's stimulated when I angle a vibrator a certain way or if I'm on top of my husband and grinding him. What happens when I "squirt" is a BUNCH of liquid comes out the urethra, it's not urine though, it has been scientifically proven that it's not. It comes from the female prostate. The female prostate fills with fluid when she is sexually aroused. If it's not released during sexual activity she then later "pees" it out. This is why women typically have to go urinate after sex. Now if you try to make her squirt be prepared to have to change your bedding, and I recommend having a water proof type mattress cover. Now it can sometimes take women a while to "learn" to relax and squirt because they are taught that it is peeing and that it's wrong and not lady like. But it's not peeing. It took me a while to learn to relax and release, but once I did it gives me the best orgasms ever, about 10 times more intense then other orgasms. Anyway, sorry to get all graphic I just know alot about sex lol. Hope this helps and hope you figure out something. I know how frustrating it can be. The past month I've had no sexual desire, so ordering some spanish fly. But it happens, there was a time where my hubby had no desire and I was going nuts. This is why we keep toys in my house for both of us lol, I have vibrators and he has a couple vaginas. So if one of us aren't in the mood and the other is, there is always something there. Then there is no need for infidelity and everyone's happy.
