Okay, I been married 2 years this saturday and I'm in a very open relationship (not open in the sense that we swing lol), but open in the sense that we share with one another. Now, before life got really busy recently, hubby and I use to watch porn TOGETHER!!! That's right, you heard me lol. I like porn, but not the mainstream, big fake boobed skinny stick getting fucked by an ugly guy lol. I like anime porn (so does hubby) dunno why I like the animation, and it feeds fantasy more so than watching real people I guess. We actually have sex while watching porn, though most the time it ends up we just have sex in front of a mirror and watch each other LOL. Now when it comes to real people porn, I like various things, I like REAL women and REAL men, but attractive ones. I don't like fake boobed women, they are gross (I'm bisexual) and hubby doesn't like them either!!! He has NO porn with fake boobed women. Most all his porn is of women with natural size B to small D's. He is more of an ass man, most his porn, is you guessed it, big butts and anal! He doesn't have the degrading women type, but rather the type that revolves around pleasing the female, then the male. He likes to see women have orgasms, that's what gets his rocks off. Now, I'm bi, I like gay and lesbian porn as well, he likes lesbian porn so we watch that together, I don't care too much for some of the stuff he's into like fisting, I just don't find it appealing, but he does. I don't get mad at him if he watches that, he doesn't get mad at me if I watch two hot hunks bang each other lol. He has pics of females on his ipod of various body types as far as tall, short, blonde, brunette, etc. etc. but they all have ONE thing in common, nice butts, size B to small D boobs, natural breasts and flat tummies. And most are petite like me. So I do agree that if a man says he's into one type and he has everything else saying the opposite as far as pics and porn, then the odds are that he's lying. Sorry for being blunt here or too graphic lol but I think this needs to be discussed openly with an open mind. Now I've asked my hubby if he has the different women's pics because he's not happy with me, he said no, that he just appreciates the beauty of different women (and no none of the pics on his ipod are sexual!!! 98% are fully clothed!!!) he likes blondes, brunettes, some redheads, etc. he likes white girls, light skinned black, hispanic, some asian (ass man so he's picky there), he likes tall, short, etc. and most of the pics are celebrities so I don't get jealous too much lol just jealous of the no stretch marks and flat tummies
but a lil more exercise and I'll have the flat tummy dammit. Point is, I wouldn't see this as a problem if he wasn't hiding it, my hubby DOESN'T hide it. He is open about it. He looks at other females who are attractive to him, but doesn't touch. I look at other males but go to bed with him. And for the record I HATE chick flicks, HATE romance novels, etc. They are too mushy for me lol I don't want some fake fantasy, I want what's real, so does my hubby. Most his porn is either anime or amateur meaning real people. Oh and he gets playboys, they are in our bedroom lol, and in the "adult" bathroom. Makes good toilet reading material lol. I like the jokes in them, don't find most the females attractive cause of the fake boobs, and I don't like bleached blonde hair much, depends. I hope this gives you another perspective and real relationship to go by to make you feel better. But I agree with the others it seems he doesn't really care about you and you deserve better!!!