The only time porn destroys a marriage is if the person that is addicted to it, notice I said person and not male, females get addicted to it too, don't think it's just one sided here, if that person allows it to destroy their marriage. It's when they put it before anything else, it's called a sex addiction, a psychologist will consider it a sex addiction period, because the sex addiction itself is the addiction to the high you get when aroused. Whether it is physical contact with someone, or just visual and mental stimulation from a porn flick, it all boils down to the same addition, to that high from the hormones that flow. It's just like a drug addiction, whether you want to admit it or not, drugs are addictive because of the high feeling it gives the user. Same thing with a food addiction, they become addicted to the feeling they have while doing the act of whatever it is. And it only becomes an addiction when it is done in obsessive amounts and it interferes with one's life. I don't feel porn, beauty pageants, and the like are horrible for marriages because any normal person knows that is all superficial and they know the difference between superficial and real feelings and love. I'm 22 so I grew up with all this. My husband sometimes looks at porn, not often, and it's normally with me watching it with him! Sometimes it can spice up a love life. And it's not that we don't love each other. We do. It's just fun to change things up. The only time I feel it would interfere in a relationship is if one person is insecure. That would be the only time one partner would object to their partner looking at other people with their knowledge. I mean we are human, we all look, period. I don't care how in love you are, you look whether you want to admit it or realize it. It's human nature. I don't feel the same way as you, but that's what makes us all individuals. By the way this is my true attitude toward the subject at hand. I am a very open and sexual person, you might not agree with that, that's okay. I have a very loving marriage, a very loyal husband, and that's all that matters to me.
Now I do agree that SOME men and women have the wrong expectations on relationships and sex in general, but this doesn't mean everyone does. Some men expect their women to be perfect like the media thinks beauty is and they expect a pornstar in the bedroom, and those are the type of men who will never find love, who sleep with hundreds of women and not feel a thing for them. But you have to realize there are women like this as well! And it's not all the media or porn industry's fault. It's how they are raised. I'm sorry but I feel it's the family that sets the example or shows the person how to love, what feelings are, etc. No one should rely on the media to teach values. Do you honestly sit your child in front of a TV and expect them to learn to love? to hurt? to care? No, you show that child yourself. My son sees everyday a happy married couple. Me and my husband. And he asked me the other day about a kid at his school that doesn't have a mom or dad, he has his aunt as a guardian, he asked me why they don't have a mom or dad, and why his aunt wasn't married to a "daddy". All he knows is the example I've set. So when he sees something different he does come to me about it. I believe it is up to the parent to teach the child not the media.
Anyway this is just a lil bit of my thoughts on the subject, I could go on and on, but I won't
