@Lily13:
Oh, I couldn't agree with you more. When I first met him he told me that he never looked at porn or anything like that. He never had any magazines, movies, or anything. So, I believed him. Up until like 6-7 months ago. He had left his email account open, so I decided to be nosy. Well, I caught him having cyber-sex with a much older woman. Oh, you can bet I flipped my lid over that one!!! >: (
We got into a huge arguement, he said he was sorry, it was a mistake, yadda, yadda, yadda....he would never do it again....Anyway, he lost a lot of my trust with that. But nothing else happened that I knew of until recently. Then he started playing farmville. He accepted friend requests from some pretty hot girls in like Australia or something. I checked their profile and they indeed played farmville, so I didn't say anything. Until he posted 'smoking hot" on one of their pics. That got under my skin, since his compliments to me had become pretty much non-existant. He deletes all of his sent/received messages on FB, and most of the ones through his email. The only reason I know now that he still looks at NUMEROUS girls' profiles is because I keep my history bar open. He doesn't know that. I have seen him send some messages to these girls...don't get to see what the messages contain since he deletes them, but still. It's funny though. He will "friend" these girls, check out their pics and then delete them from his friends?? ?? IDK. But yeah, I think something is fishy with it too and if he was truly happy what would be the need for this? And being sneaky about it makes it so much worse! I am just biding my time for the moment. Wasn't going to say anything unless I found out something more was going on. Just tired of being hurt. Went through this with my ex-husband...only he was seeing co-workers! But, the thing that really gets me, I thought if your partner was cheating then your sex-life normally goes downhill, they get more distant, and you feel like there is always "something" missing, like there is a huge hole that shouldn't be there. Have ALWAYS had this happen when I have been cheated on. But like I said, nothing has changed. Our love-life has actually improved if you can believe it, so I don't know what to think. I would be more worried if that wasn't so. IDK. And yes it is sad that so many people go through this. And, no I don't want to be with someone like that. I spent 10 years of my life miserable. WILL NOT go through that again! But just trying to wait this out a little longer to see if there really is something that I should have been worried about or if it was just my insecurities coming into play...Sorry ladies for venting.